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May 16, 2009

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I hate being the first to comment,
since I am-- here goes~

In my lovely state of OR-- services for EI are like a lovely coccoon -- if there is even a bit of discomfort there is one person to call -- But once you transistion out of EI into preschool-- you end up with help but now it's more like a big fish net-- there are holes that you can fall through.

In my experience, you do a lot of praying between preschool and kindergarten.

There is never a guarentee that you will recieve an IEP, or any services at all ~ It is very hard to stay focused on your child and their needs-(not to mention your own personal "needs")[clear communication] - when often I am just guessing at what new skills my child might need to master.

So much of what I have dealt with is teaching others' to see me as a source of critical information. It goes back to Barbara's post about bridges... don't burn them, always keep them cared for~ so, hopefully I have added to the disscussion in a helpful way!

You bet you have, Stacey!

Oh boy! Another big topic. I'm in the IFSP stage with my 2 year old. I remember my head spinning when we started EI and to some extent it still is. Perhaps by the time he is grown I will have learned what I need to know to take full advantage of the services and programs available. But, then it will be too late, won't it? I vacillate between fear that I'm not doing enough for him and the laid back attitude that he'll do what he needs to do in good time.

Your "Oh boy!", Stephanie, could be interpreted as either happy or exasperated - ? I hope you will go read Terri's post - not that it is total reassurance, but she is realistic and humorous at the same time (which I greatly admire). Also, she gives fair warning. Long term potential frustration and exhilaration. I hope you will find a means for finding the middle ground or a comfortable place between your vacillations.

2-years is plenty young to make effective intervention, so you ARE taking advantage of things in good timing. 'Sofaras 'doing enough' - there is a priority list - like saving his life first - something that you participated in with all those oxygen tanks. (Note to self: mention that priority in the next post in this series.)

I wish that EI wasn't so fraught with bureaucracy. I was speaking with Kayla's ABA teacher and she was lamenting the fact that she has been audited THREE times already this year and got two of the same citations in a row, if there is a third the county can cancel her contract. (She is the only certified ABA provider in our county) The citation? She keeps forgetting to put a paragraph at the end of her annual reports that she went over the report with the parents. Nothing to do with her skills or the service she provides, but a friggin PAPERWORK violation. It's mindboggling.

OhmyGOSH I am glad you commented, datri! Regulation = bureaucracy. Your teacher's frustration is certainly understandable. Regulation seems to take away the power (and thus ability) for anyone in charge to make common sense decisions - like NOT pull a teacher's contract for innocuous error. The power shifts to the regulation and people are lost in the process.

I'm hoping by showing some of the history of EI readers will connect good intentions with massive regulation to answer some of their individual questions. Not to be all hopeless here, but to understand the reasons in order to problem-solve for your individual circumstance.

if my old man had intervened sooner, he might still be around. maybe. the earlier the better, i'm sure that's correct.

Oh goodness....look at David's comment. True though.

Anyways, we have been blessed with EI....until yesterday when I opened up a bill from them for $483.00. ouch.

Up until Feb of this year, the families were NEVER billed. Things have now changed. How unlucky for me. They have been providing services free for 20 some-odd years and as soon as Elisabeth receives services they switch their billing policy.

Oh well....it's for a good cause :)

Our experience may have been the opposite of most...we were overjoyed when we found we could opt out of EI and into a special needs preschool at age 2!

We had to pay for EI -to the tune of $100/hr (insurance wouldn't cover it)- which meant we could not afford much. It was stressful to have to choose which service (PT/OT/Speech??) would be most beneficial for the small amount of time we were able to pay for. And all at a time when we were still learning about her syndrome and really had no idea what would be best! Also the turnover and vacant position rate within EI services was atrocious. There was no continuity of providers.

Anyway, the special needs preschool was awesome. Jess LOVED it. It was such a relief that she could then receive ALL services she needed...we no longer had to pick and choose.

Appreciating David's comment - gives me a chance to lob-off the extremes of 'always' and 'never' from my philosphical spectrum. Nate says to not let comments get off-topic in his tips post: http://cfhusband.blogspot.com/2008/06/blogging-tips.html

So I will leave it at that, David (who is sib to Lisa).

Heartfelt thanks to both Lisa and Sandi for their comments - gives me fodder for future posts in this series.

Has anyone written EI / IDEA history into a (readable) book?

I could see some neat possibilities for intertwining the timelines with personal anecdotes from different points in the last 30-to-40-ish years...

Not volunteering anyone to take on such a project, mind you, just wondering if it's been done!

I am always stirring things up... even unintentionally. This was a great historical viewpoint. thank you for such a thorough look at it. I have always cringed at the thought of putting Sydney in "School" at 3 years old. I know more... but the thought of handing my 4 year old over to the school system still scares the %$#@! out of me. (sigh) She is about to turn two, so I still have a little time. BTW, ECI has been fabulous for us! I feel like my specialist has taught me so much about child development and she is on the same page that I am, that we should "work" through play. I know several moms who "work" their kids. One of them walked into Gymboree for a birthday party (her party) and she burst into tears because she has to "work" there for three hours/twice a week.

I just posted - within which I expressed gratitude for parents who 'stir things up', Jeanette. :)

Sadly, not all therapy is fun. But it is within the match of a parent and therapist who agree to 'work' a child, and where.

I'm glad the historical context helped. I hope you can see in the now top post where for some of the time - the billing-insurance-procedure was what caught Sandi's family and the newer rules allowing charging parents has now caught Lisa's family.

Sliding between time and regulatory changes has given me the feeling of a time warp (just after this post). A feeling unpleasant enough to declare that authoring a book on the history of EI is NOT something for which I will volunteer! Anyone interested - contact JoyMama. Hehe.

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